Have you ever seen, heard or read something that was so profound it stopped you in your tracks and made you say “Oh my gosh”? An “Aha” or “light bulb” moment that just grabbed your attention and even took your breath away? I had that kind of moment the other day and I was so unprepared for it that I screeched loud enough to jolt my sleeping dog awake! It came to me when I was watching Super Soul Sunday with Oprah. Read on to learn more about it.
I love Oprah Winfrey’s new Super Soul Sunday (more info), but haven’t been able to watch any of the aired shows so I’ve been taping them. (Hoping that during those long nights of insomnia I could do a marathon!) I was particularly interested in the shows with Brene Brown. For those of you who haven’t heard of Brene Brown, she is a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work (as well as a NY Times best-selling author and renowned speaker) and has spent decades studying vulnerability, courage, worthiness and shame. (About) All feelings that so many of us struggle understanding and for which I have a keen fascination.
I finally found a day where I could listen to the playbacks. This wouldn’t be any ordinary day either; this was going to be a day of pampering and I made sure to give it the attention it deserved: I came to the living room in my most comfy pjs, a warm cup of tea and all electronic communication shut off (okay, maybe not shut off, but at least turned down)! My faithful companion and I curled up on the sofa together and I hit play; wouldn’t you know, Murphy’s Law kicked in immediately – the first part never taped! Sighing, I thought, oh well at least there’s another part. Taking a deep breath (and crossing my fingers that Mr. Murphy didn’t show up again), I pushed play one more time. Oprah and Ms. Brown began discussing a myriad of topics and settled upon the 10 Guideposts to Wholeheartedly Living that was the subject of her latest book, Daring Greatly. (I had missed the first 5 from part 1, but at least they were going over the last 5.) And then it happened and only a few minutes into the discussion!
They were talking about the 6th guidepost: Cultivating Creativity: Letting Go of Comparison. This is what I heard:
Creativity has to be cultivated. Unused creativity is not benign; it metastasizes and turns into: grief, judgment, sorrow, rage and shame. It can be very dangerous. We are divine beings and by nature creative. But our creativity gets lost along the way and is often shamed out of us.
I gasped, “Oh my gosh” so loudly that the dog jerked her head up and stared intently at me for several minutes. THIS WAS MY “Aha” MOMENT.
You see, as a professional organizer, I surround myself with structure, order and planning, but what many people don’t know is that I am also very creative. The two sides of my brain are often at war with each other because most of my life has been spent concentrating on using the structure, order and planning side. The creative side always got pushed to the back waiting for me to take the time to cultivate it. As a wife and mom of 26 years, I had been solely focused on raising two sons, running a home and working full time; there never seemed to be enough time to cultivate my personal creativity. In that instant though, I understood that because I had been stifling that need, I had been experiencing many of the feelings that Brene had just described; it was as if she was pointing to me through the screen when she said it. I realized I was close to a danger zone – I could see that resentment had started creeping in from not using the creativity locked deep within myself. It was as if Ms. Brown had unlocked a door that I could walk through. It was clear as day. I understood it was now time for me to unleash and cultivate my inner creativity; there was nothing to hold me back anymore. YES, A LIGHT BULB MOMENT FOR SURE!
Once I heard those words, I knew that I couldn’t just sit back and “listen” to this show; I needed to pay attention and make sure I took notes along the way. I was certain that there would be other golden moments of clarity that I would want to remember. There was, but I’m not going to let those secrets out just yet….that will be subject of future blog posts of introspection, so you’ll have to tune in again to find out!
TELL ME SOMETHING: Have you ever had a moment like that – a moment of clarity that was so profound it stopped you in your tracks and took your breath away? If you have, would you share it? For, I believe that, in sharing we find the greatest gift of our Aha moments: passing them on to someone else who is open to experiencing the profoundness of our enlightenment.